What would be good as a parent to do the sad moment when your child is running in your arms and tells you "Mommy my classmate is mocking me", "Mommy this kid tells me stupid", "Mommy this little boy pushed me" and so on, and the list of these complaints does not stop.
First, take the embrace and reassure her if she is crying.
Then ask "Why my love? What happened? "This question will tell you the story. He will understand how actions have consequences.Open the conversation to find out if your child was doing something or not. Most of the time that a kid pushes the other or says a bad word it is because he felt annoyed and reacted.
We ask another question again: "Did you do something to yourself and feel annoyed by your friend?" Many parents immediately judge the aggressive behavior of other children without knowing that their own child may have a verbal or aggressive attack on him, and not it must have been done at that time, it may have happened in the past. Without this it means that whoever starts first is to be blamed. Both attacks and reactions are not correct. It would be good to teach the children to react alone without the help of Mom or Dad, but that does not mean they have to beat the kid who beat them or talk badly to the one who chewed them!
Under no circumstances we fight the children of other parents! It's illegal. Neither do we judge mothers! There is a big deal as children grow up to become super-lovers! So it would be useless to advise "Do not give him back!" So he will lose hours of play and will not learn to forgive.
If this happens in school, we only talk to the teacher and if necessary with the manager. We are not responsible there. If it's out of school, then the most prudent thing to do is tell him "Go and tell him not to bother me, as many times as he may need." If your friend's bad behavior persists, remove your child. Explain to your child that the only solution to such issues is to talk and not to react with the same currency (kicks, snaps, spades, bruises, etc.). It may not have immediate results but it has a long-term.
Key Words For Self Confidence
There are some keywords that will make your child feel better when they say, such as:
- Love you
- I was thinking about you
- I forgive you
- You are brave
- You are strong
- I missed you
- No one is not perfect
- I believe you
- You make me proud
- You are important to me
- I trust you
- I have felt it too
We have a responsibility as parents to make our children feel strong, independent and believe in themselves. That's what you do with words encouraging everyday. A child who feels happy, beautiful, smart, powerful will not allow him to invade bad feelings inside him. She will react in a beautiful way, always courteously and away from unpleasant situations. It simply will not give meaning to, and will not even want to be, with some who are not like him.
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