The 9 lessons you need to learn before you get to the middle of your life: Explains a career coach
It is true that as you grow up in your life you see things from a different perspective than you saw them younger. That's what career coach Kathy Caprino sees. She is now in her 57 years of age, and through all her experiences she has come up with the 9 lessons you need to learn before you get to the middle of your life. Check out the following, as stated in an article in Thrive Global.
1.Support what you believe
I have worked with hundreds of adults around the world who behaved badly and manipulated them emotionally when they were children. When this happens during your childhood, your development is affected and it is very difficult for you to believe that you deserve or defend yourself. You do not live your own life, but the one that others want for you.
I arrived 41 years to speak and defend myself and never let the others rest or fix me down.
You have to find the courage and decide who you want to be and what you want to do before it's too late. It's time to stop bothering to bother you. Take today the decision to become the person you will be proud of.
What do you want to fight, starting now?
2. Do not ever compromise on your soul
There are things you can compromise on, perhaps, about where your work is located, how much time you go to or even on your summer vacation. But you can not make compromises for your soul. Because if you do, it will have disastrous results.You need to know what keeps your spirit alive and care for it.
What matters is truth, opacity, sympathy, power and honesty. For many years I could not freely express anything from all of this. But I realized that if there is not all this in my job or relationships, I feel like lying down and feeling like I'm failing. But now I know what it takes to care for my soul and I will never make a compromise again.
What do you have to do to keep your spirit alive?
3. Use your logic and insight when deciding who you will love and trust
People with whom you have a relationship, be it marriage, friendship, or professional relationships and partnerships, will have a huge impact on the quality of your life and your life in general. Do not leave people in your life who will harm you, reduce you and abuse you. Do not allow this. If you constantly attract people who hurt or mistreat you, you need to understand what makes you behave like that and try to correct it.
Be very careful when deciding who you will trust.And if someone betrays your trust and respect, remove him from your life.Is there anyone in your life who must take him out of it?
4. Do not wait a minute longer to express your creativity
For many years, I did not consider myself creative. I was just the person who brought money to his family. I thought other people in my family and life were creative. But that's not true. I did not allow myself to see what is inside me. Or, to put it more accurately, I did not let my creative skills come to light, and of course I could not understand how valuable they were. But when I started to take care of my skills, the world changed overnight! Even my job became the means by which I could at last express myself.
You do not have to change a profession to cultivate your creativity. Do what you are capable of doing.
5. Ask for help when you need it
When you feel that you can not do it yourself, ask for help. Do not wait. Ask a friend or someone who values you, respects you and shares your vision with you.Do not expect unnecessarily thinking that you do not have what is required.You may not have exactly what you need, but with the right help you will do it.
What kind of help can you ask right now to go where you really want?
6. Do not hurt yourself
For many years I've been stuck in situations that did not do me good, whether it was jobs or relationships, because I did not want to face reality, that is, I needed to drastically change my life and the way I was handling the world if I wanted to be happy.I hurt myself instead of changing something or taking small steps to help me get out of wrong situations.
Do not hurt yourself. He changed it does not suit you. Take small steps to help you make a change in your life and started today.
7. Improve your relationship with money
Looking back, I find out today that I have developed some very negative thoughts about money. And that's what blame everything I learned to think about since I was a kid. The worst thing was that I was thinking that in order to make a lot of money in my job, I would have to do something unethical. That is, to sell my soul, to hate what I do and what other people do and to agree on what I really was.
All these negative thoughts will control your relationship with money unless you redefine it.
Turn back to your childhood and ask yourself "what did my family know about how to deal with money? With power or weakness, secrecy or receptiveness, courage or fear, love or hatred, evil or joy? Who controlled money in the family and who did not? " You will find that everything you have learned about money as a child is affecting you today and prevents you from seeing it as something positive.
8. Do not waste your time on need
There is so much to be done - what we need to do, how we should be and how we should behave. All these were limitations, both my professional and my personal. I realized I grew up always doing what others wanted me. Why; To make them proud or to feel that they love me and accept me.
By succumbing to the need of my life, the expectations and the demands of others on how I should live and behave, I realized that I am not driving to happiness.
That's why you stopped feeling an obligation and started doing what you really want, not what you need.
9. Leave pain, anger and vice
I have experienced a lot of pain, anger, frustration, mischief and confusion throughout my life. From relationships that broke me and jobs that exhausted me, until colleagues who betrayed me. I have been very disappointed. And I know you've felt yourself. Life is full of difficulties that can make you bruise.But at the same time it is very beautiful, glamorous, glittering and can fill you with gratitude.
I learned that it is a matter of choice - either you will choose pain and anger, or you will find a way to cure and release them. I learned that if you keep your pain and anger, you lose all the meaning of life. We did not come to life to waste it with rage and frustration. We came to learn, mature and prosper.
It is up to you to decide whether you will remain stuck in hate or find a way to forgive, forget and make a life full of meaning.
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